This subtle shift in the focus of the pattern of the couple's arguments usually occurs early in the relationship. Because this pattern is so subtle and hard to initially identify, our culture has been slow to identify it as abuse.
Confidence, I guess is subjective. Some people perfectly personify it: *cough* narcissists *cough* Others believe one can 'look' confident and therefore place more attention on their outward appearance; whereas others place more value on the 'act' of confidence. Whatever the correct answer may be, true confidence goes a long way in....
As I sit in anger, my mind can't help but remind me of that one time, where I was accused of being a 'third wave feminist'. I use the word accuse, because this male, threw the word at me as though I should be ashamed of it. Nevertheless, I have no problem being called a… Continue reading Third-Wave Feminism and Masculinity
When I began blogging I was advised to be very consistent when writing content. I agreed to this, and dedicated myself to writing a blog post once or twice a week. Clearly, this hasn't quite gone to plan.
Have you ever looked in the mirror and wanted to change something about your appearance? For me that has always been my weight. The heaviest I've been on the scale has been 8 stones (50kg) and this didn’t even last two weeks before the weight dropped back down again. It’s a struggle. From secondary school… Continue reading Body Image Struggles: Weight Gain
I used to think that in order to attain happiness, I had to first of all achieve certain milestones: graduate, pass my driving test, buy my first (or second) car, move cities, be promoted..I was therefore left somewhat baffled when even after having accomplished all these goals, the euphoric high only lasted a short while.… Continue reading Beware of Destination Addiction!
This topic has been sparked by an observation made throughout the weekend at a family get-together. It was observed that men feel entitled to things simply because they are men, deeming themselves to have more economic power than women. This speaks to a large societal problem which has deep ties in patriarchy, most especially amongst… Continue reading Why As Ladies, We Should Be Financially Independent
1. Things to do everyday: Thank God. Drink Water. Check up on loved ones. Cleanse your face. 2. Show more gratitude and appreciate the little things.3. Pressing snooze is never ever a good idea. That extra 5-10 minutes (In my case 15-30 minutes *covers face*) of sleep is never really worth the repercussions of having to… Continue reading 21 Reflections Of A 21 Year Old
I've been a victim of whitewashed black beauty. Black women throughout modern history have been portrayed as unattractive.The 21st century's current beauty ideals, are a reflection of European beauty standards; emphasised through the widespread projection of Eurocentric facial features: fair skin,thin nose and long silky hair.Generally, these homogenous standards of beauty exclude many black women, potentially… Continue reading Conforming To The 21st Century Standards of Beauty
In all honesty, my relationship with God hasn't always been the strongest. In fact, I'd be lying if I was to say that I pray every single day, or that I attend church every Sunday. However, one thing that I have and have always had is 'faith'. Faith keeps me going. Faith to me evokes… Continue reading By Grace Through Faith…